Closure is an inside job!

As a psychic healer, I keep getting clients who stubbornly cling to the energy of past relationships because they want "closure."

"He broke my heart."

"Will he ever see that I was the best thing that ever happened to him?"

"Is he sorry for what he did?"

Many wonderful people prevent themselves from moving forward and embracing a new relationship. Too often they remain fixated on the one who broke their heart.

"I feel as if I never got 'closure.'"

Well the truth about closure is that it's an inside job! Like happiness, you are responsible for your own closure. It does not come from outside, it doesn't even come from the person with whom you want to close. It comes from within yourself.

It's important to honor what you put into the relationship. Honor what that person meant to you, and move on.

Don't expect the man who broke your heart to suddenly give the relationship the respect it deserves. That may never happen. By waiting for him to respect the relationship and give you closure, you put yourself in a cycle of constant hurt each time he fails to do so. If you become overly focused on his growth, you run the risk of hampering your own.

Many clients who continue as "friends" with a former lover still never receive the closure they are looking for. Even when he recognizes his past mistakes, the woman looks at this as hope not closure. She begins to fantasize a reunion, and more often than not, gets hurt all over again. She can't understand why he doesn't want to go back to the relationship instead of simply acknowledging his mistakes.

Closure will happen when you truly want to move on. If your secret desire is for him to come back, then you are not ready for closure.

Tips for creating your own closure:
1. You have to truly want to move on.
2. Honor the effort and love you gave the relationship even if it was not reciprocated.
3. In three words, capture the essence of what you loved about him and being to look for those qualities in a someone new.
4. Stop fearing that you'll be alone forever. I do hundreds of readings per week, and there has never been a case where someone was left all alone. There is always someone else!
5. Spend your thoughts being hopeful about a new wonderful man who will give you everything your past lover did not.